ZD- that’s not what I am referring to. When someone discusses a halachik topic, there are people who come on saying, “Oh that’s just a chumra. I know five people who got heterim for that when they told their rav they get headaches thinking about it” or “don’t forget to tell the rov you are sensitive, he may paskin differently” The idea that comes across to some people is that Halacha can be manipulated or relaxed if I REALLY don’t want to do it or THINK I can’t or maybe just because. It is a slippery slope to people who are feeling overwhelmed by life and instead of getting help (any type) to learn balance, they start to key in on all these loopholes. Or even if you don’t want to call it a loophole, we don’t window shop halachik advice. I have read even here that you should go to a different rov for different types of things when that is not at all appropriate for Halacha. And someone struggling with that may latch on to that and run with it.
does that mean nobody should talk about anything or bring up that there are different views on things ?
NO!!!!! It doesn’t. But there are some topics that are too prone to damage. And there are a lot of people using online forums to find good loopholes and excuses that they didn’t even know where there and then they grab them. This really is a different topic altogether, and I know we have discussed it before. Just trying to clarify that I wasn’t talking about any situation like you mentioned above.