its 2017. There are people OD’ing left and right, guys getting involved with girls (i dont just mean texting), complete and total freedom and hedonism is being shoved down our eyes ears and brains, now imagine how a teenager feels. I say if he/she is working on themselves and trying to be a good Jew/person in this world of chaotic taavah and hester– let em drink and smoke.
When someone finds out reliable info on a guy and the worst thing he does is have beer and a bbq bein hazemanim, i would say grab him. (And give him respect. Oh and a hug.)