I am not going ti deny that our community has an issue with bachurim drinking too much and others who go OTD. However, that does not mean we have to keep bachurim totally sheltered and not allowed to experience anything. Maybe we should take a lesson from R’ Chaim Pinchas Scheinberg TZATZAL who was known to be a very good baseball pitcher in his younger days. He would motivate his students by telling them “if Lefty Scheinberg can do it, so can you”.
When I was in Mesivta in the late ’70s, our Menahel asked myself and another bochur to go buy 5 big bottles of beer for the Chanukah mesiba.
TheFakeMaven: I totally disagree with your comment “it does not change the fact that the ‘chilli with a beer’ is a hefkerediga concept and is not OK for bochorim to do it.”. There is nothing wrong with a bochur having some “relaxation time” and to have a beer while eating at a BBQ.