ubiquitin:
You wrote: “So if a chassid is going to throw away his upbringing, ie go to college, what is the point in still keeping some restrictions, he isnt going to be Religous anyway, (since he is going to college, maybe not wearing a shtreimel) he may as well go all the way.”
I must take serious issue. I am fully aware that going to college has its risks, and that many advise against it. However, there are B”H many today who have handled going through college with advanced degrees, and remain as kadosh and tahor as those who work as klai kodesh. I include fields of law, medicine, psychology, social work, computers, business, etc. Without a doubt, you will find rotten apples in those barrels, but they are to be found in groups of people who function within the many rabbinical positions as well. There are quite many who don the shtreimel who have college education, and serve Klal Yisroel with honor and dignity. Pursuing a career does NOT translate into “throwing away his upbringing” anymore than getting training as an accountant means eating chazzer on Yom Kippur. When we give our youth the message that doing anything besides schnorring off others to sit in kollel forever is abandoning one’s heritage, we create a mess. The message is clearly untrue, and the damage is not done by the person seeking a career, but by misguided, misleading fools.
I am not pushing college education on anyone. You need it for the careers I referenced above. And the decision to pursue such careers requires guidance and commitment, both to Torah and to the field of study. It also requires a Rebbe to serve as a guide to help maintain one’s heritage, and the constant exposure to kedusha. But such paths do NOT take someone away from Yiddishkeit, unless these misleading advisers push them away.