Joseph wrote: :1) Going to college reduces a girl’s ruchniyos outlook on life.
2) Even without going to college, the longer a girl waits to get married after Beis Yaakov her level of ruchniyos deteriorates.:
Both of these points are quite comical, and neither have a basis in reality.
Firstly, we are reading this with the need to assume that Joseph knows exactly what “ruchniyos outlook on life” means. This phrase, at the very least, is vague, even to the writer. It is virtual gibberish to the reader.
Secondly, there is a serious nature vs. nurture issue here. And it is magnified ever so much more by the role of home learning versus college learning. I suggest that the truly frum, “ruchniyos” driven girl will be hardly impacted by college life. Now, in what way does college education diminish one’s outlook on life? By establishing parnosoh so that one does not need to be dependent on parents or handouts?
Thirdly, the amount of time between graduating Bais Yaakov until getting married is purported to cause a decrease in “ruchniyos outlook on life”. How does that work? Beginning with the hypothesis that we all know what that puzzling phrase means, how does time work against it?
Joseph – you have an agenda. Sometimes it is easy to recognize from your posts. I’m not sure here what you are pushing. Should we force a girl to marry because of her birthdate or the date she graduated Bais Yaakov? What if that shidduch is not appropriate for any of many reasons? Are you going to police her thoughts that she should sentence herself to a life of unpredictable challenge because it is now a full year since she graduated? That would create a reverse shidduch crisis, where shidduchim happen, but are doomed because they were made out of technicality instead of any of the issues that matter. That would create an even greater chaos of divorces, agunos, and the rest of that can or worms.
What is the agenda?