Joseph said, ” In your circles you might be marrying for the money; in Torah families that is not the case.”
My niece went through shidduchim the past few years, looking for a learner. BUT Ein kemach Ein Torah. i.e. she better have money or access to some money for a number of years. So the “idealistic” learners still wanted years (up to 10 – that’s 300k to 500k) of support.
BTW, she got married last year, and they’re in Kollel in E”Y.
Joseph, you have high ideals, but we live in a real world.