Hi Shopping!
I don’t mean to derail your thread but I have a question for you.
You asked some good questions. You got some good answers. Here’s my question-
There’s a lot of talk about the causes of OTD. DY says (tongue in cheek?) that the cause is whatever your pet peeve is. I think that with a problem as serious as this, some straight talk and clear thinking would be a good idea. As you may have noticed yourself from reactions to the hair measuring fiasco, many people say that telling our kids what they can and cannot do will make them go off the derech. There’s a wave of permissiveness aiming to combat this, with parents encouraged to indulge their child’s every whim (new car? – no problem. new jeans? -I’ll take you out and buy as many pairs as your heart desires. trashed the new car? – no problem, we’ll replace it. want some piercings to match those jeans? -let’s go!) the prevailing wisdom being that as long as our children never hear the words “no I won’t allow that” we can eradicate OTD.
Then I read Shopping’s words,
“Following rules doesn’t make girls go OTD.”
Can you explain Shopping613?
I’m genuinely interested in your perspective and insights.
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