Reply To: Ok…About The Whole Hair Measuring Thing…Please Help Me Understand 👧📏✂️

Hey golfer
So basically I think what is causing kids to go OTD is when they hear contradictory things. Such as hearing a rule from a school then hearing their own parents bash it by saying it’s wrong, unbiased on hlacha, bad, extreme, etc.

What causes a stable kid is when the important people in their life are on the same page and they listen to the child and their needs. Not every kid should go to the same high school or yeshiva.

Of course you can disagree with some decisions or rules. But you need to do it nicely. With the agree to disagree attitude. Not negativity and outright put downs that confuse the child. Forgrt it if the entire Internet is bashing a child’s authority figure….

Oh and DY I have questions back for yours. I’m just on busses and out so I can’t write that now. Bezras Hashem I can respond in a few hours.