Reply To: Ok…About The Whole Hair Measuring Thing…Please Help Me Understand 👧📏✂️

DY:
1. Genuine concern? People make it out like this is abuse, which it most definitely is not. If you think it is, don’t send your kid there. If you are sending your kids there, it’s not abuse…unless you think your abusive for sending them to an abusive school.
2. I used to have sources…I could most definitely get them. Speaking as a girl, not yet married- I personal have struggled with hair. I don’t just cut my hair off for nothing. I truly beleive long hair is not tzniyudsik. Sure it’s a chumrah, but it has basis, not kihalacha per say but more like something that isn’t advised and brings negetivity, and pritzus to the world… (last I checked I’m pretty sure the Zohar said that…plus there are some other sources. Plus on another note, my hair is actually bright. It’s red. It’s curly. If it’s long you can see it from 3 blocks away (I’ve had people tell me that beofre)….definitely falls under “eye catching”. Hair also smells good after showering, and the longer it is the more scent it takes up…point is I’m saying it’s not bidavka the length, it’s what comes out as a direct link from the length.
3. Sure it’s not comfortable, life isn’t always comfortable. But it’s a school rule. They aren’t always comfortable either. Like wearing nude tights in middle of the winter in Yerushalayim when it is snowing!!
4. If you really cared, and it truly bothered you, and you truly did not agree with the school you’d move elsewhere for your kids’ chinuch’ sake….just saying. Or you would shut your mouth. You wouldn’t blow up on twitter and push your kids to be negetive toward their own school.
5. What is venting going to do? Make you feel better? Why do it online? Why cause this uproar? If you have a problem, why publisize it for no reason? If you cared enough you would take action, call the school, etc….you obviously don’t care if you are making an uproar…to just vent. Do you feel better after venting on the internet in a anonymous comment senction maybe 600 people will actually read?

6. If you don’t know the school…why do you care?
7. Agreed. lol.

Chabadgal:
1. It’s online…close enough.
2. Aha….okay. I read it, maybe missed that part. I thought they were okay with long hair being OUT.
3. Yes, I don’t agree with it either. At least not publicly….but yeah, I’m saying this isn’t a new concept. But the internet thinks it is.
4. Um you know….to other schools. They exist.
5. That’s true, but that was done by an askan from lakewood. Why did it have to be a public issue worldwide?
6. Good
7. Many many many frum schools have chumros, we weren’t allowed cellphones in high school (even kosher ones) or technically we had to call before going to babysit and ask if they had any secular books, media, movies, music, magazines, or newspapers…oh and unfiltered internet. If they said yes to any we weren’t allowed to babysit. Or if they let us use any electronics…
If you don’t agree with chumros, don’t send your kids there. Chumros isn’t new. I have yet to see a BY without chumros in their rule book. What makes this chumrah different?

ubiquitin
1. See DY answer
2. Ditto
3. They have a rule, this doesn’t look so public. It looks like there’s a line, it’s not a ceremony or a football game where everyone is watching. They just need to check it…
4. Ditto
5. Ditto
6. Ditto I guess
7. Ditto…