Enough Divorces,
DY, actually I’m saying that there is no right and wrong, but rather that in every conflict both sides contribute (regardless of percent ratios), so both sides are both right and wrong.
This is a dangerously wrongheaded sentiment. If, for example, one spouse is unfaithful, or verbally or physically abusive, the fact that the other spouse leaves dirty dishes in the sink sometimes, or socks on the floor sometimes, or has brief moments of insensitivity or reactivity, is irrelevant to the actual conflict that is tearing the marriage apart. All spouses have these moments, because everyone is human, yet healthy marriages are largely unaffected by them. To put minor and normal flaws on the same pedestal as unhealthy, destructive behavior in some inane effort to ensure nobody’s precious feelings are hurt and that there is “no right and wrong” (?!!!) will do nothing but provide justification for the spouse engaging in the destructive behavior to continue.