Avram in MD – I think you raise an important point. A marriage that gets to the point where an outside counselor is involved is clearly already on the rocks. A marriage counselor’s job in that case is to help defuse the situation and save the marriage if possible, but if that’s not possible, to make things as smooth/amicable as can be. I’ve seen cases where couples have gone to Rabbonim and the counselors such Rabbonim recommended hoping to save the marriage, only for the recommendation to be to end things – one party had not realized just how bad things had become, and it took a third party to point out how it was affecting that spouse and the children.
So no, it’s not necessarily a bad thing that counselors can hasten divorce.
an Israeli Yid