An Israeli Yid writes, “A marriage that gets to the point where an outside counselor is involved is clearly already on the rocks.”
I’m not sure what you mean by an outside counselor (is there such a thing as an inside counselor?), or what you mean by “on the rocks,” but I think counseling (pastoral or otherwise) for couples who are having conflicts that they have difficulty resolving themselves can be a good thing, particularly early in a marriage. That’s before the “can’t teach old dog new tricks” phase.
As others have pointed out, there’s usually a point of no return where divorce is almost inevitable, but I hope most couples seek help long before this. I’m not talking about abusive spouses, but just the ordinary shalom bayis problems that most couples experience.