Since I’m relatively sure that I have more experience on the receiving end then other posters, my answer is simple. It depends on the person and the therapist. A committed person and a good therapist will solve problems.
Unfortunately, I have met numerous therapists that lack either basic common sense, or the basic ability to guide people.
I have advised people on the better therapists in my area. My advice has always been
1) both parties involved should like the therapist, if not try another.
2) Don’t assume they know better than you, It’s 99% common sense (which is why a Rav is perfectly capable of guiding couples)
3) The therapist should be laid back. Many are so stuck in concepts that they pick up in a book and are incapable of seeing past “book sense”. These people are dangerous because they are constantly trying to find pathology, as opposed to treating real world people. Many, Many , Many of those calling themselves therapists are people with more mental pathology then the people they treat. I personally believe these people go into the field to try to understand themselves more than the people they treat, and these people really shouldn’t be treating people.
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