1. It seems from your posts that you lack experience in this field.
From your condescending attitude, it seems you are a therapist.
2. You seem to be gender biased, although scientific data suggests that domineering traits and behaviour occurs equally with both genders.
Why, because I assume that men more frequently leave their socks on the floor than women do?
3. Force and being judgmental will hardly ever implement change, so your real objective is to make divorces and drastically harm innocent children under the guise of trying to change the spouse. Sounds like pro-choice advocates who have no problem killing babies for the sake of the mother.
If you suspend all rational judgement, you can’t function as a human being, let alone maintain a marriage.