Reply To: Being Mekarev an Intermarried Jew

“Is leaving their spouse the only muttar way?”

Yes. It is prohibited to live with a non-Jew. Every day living with him/her is an additional sin.

“Is it fair to put pressure on this person to leave his or her spouse?”

Yes. We are required to encourage anyone to stop sinning.

“You dont try to convince them to leave their spouse”

We don’t even recognize a “marriage” to a non-Jew as a marriage. We absolutely do encourage them to stop sinning by leaving the prohibited relationship. No less than if a Jew were married to a sibling or if a Cohen was married to a divorcee.

“You are better off trying to convience the non-jewish partner to convert”

Judaism strongly opposes encouraging conversion. Especially in such a case where it is clear the non-Jew isn’t interested in leading an observant Jewish life, in which case no conversion would even be valid.