Modesty – I agreed with you up until this last post. I think the pull that some girls have toward non tznius clothing is beyond some people’s understanding. You should know, though, that this isn’t a challenge for all girls. And I do not believe that wearing these clothes is “fun”. Getting attention may be fun but I think it is more like satisfying an addiction than enjoyment (my opinion, not telling you what you feel) I also don’t believe that tight clothes are more comfortable. Some people may find them more comfortable, but many don’t, I think it goes back to the yetzer hara, as you say, feeding the wrong attributes.
The rest of your post made me so sad. Some people who look up to the wrong role models will feel “beautiful” wearing clothes that those role models wear (ie magazine, Hollywood). They see a certain look as being “in” based on what they see in that world. Not because of attention, but a draw to be beautiful in the sense they have adopted. But to make yourself into an object so that you can fit into a club and be noticed is more than just a pull of the yetzer hara. That sounds like using your body to detract from your ‘self’ in order to fill a deep hole of inadequacy that says, “I don’t know how much person I have to offer so I’ll just offer some skin. That never fails and the personal, emotional risk is so much less”
Your posts are amazing. I have found many of your comments to be mature and impressive and you sound like someone who has a TON to offer to the RIGHT CROWD! So if you can only find a club where people think of your outsides as being your focus, you might want to ease in to another club. You can wow them as well for parts of you that are much more valuable and have real friendships that are not about how tight your clothes are.
Hatzlacha Rabba – keep up the great work!!!!