Some of the proofs that you didn’t read what I wrote carefully:
You wrote:
“You seem to assume that anyone going through a tough time needs to be meikil. That may very well be true in some cases, but may very well be damaging in others. Perhaps long term, some individuals may be better off holding fast to their standards, rather than slacking off and feeling as if they was too weak and caved in.’’
‘’ You are assuming that had the first rav understood his emotional state, he would find room to be meikil on cholov stam.’’
I had written:
“Don’t look for a lenient Rav – look for a Rav who is both grounded in halacha and sensitive to emotional realities. Look for a Rav who won’t just tell you what to do, but how to do it. If he doesn’t think you should stop c”y, he will give you an alternative (as DY suggested).”