a friend is someone who you connect with, in whatever area it might be, based on common interests. The more interests, the better connection the better the friendship. I do believe that the wife has to be a very good friend. Otherwise it’s not a deep relationship. There’s a great book called The river, the kettle and the bird. The lowest level of a martial life is like a river between 2 countries ..i do for you, you do for me. The next level is the kettle where 2 opposite forces (water and fire) come together for a common goal.. In this case to boil the water. But the ultimate level is the bird, when all aspects of life (walking, flying, eating of the bird) are like part of one unit, like the bird itself.
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