Reply To: Gravestone (matzeva) Inscriptions seeking opinions/advice……………….

@Joseph
@DaasYochid
When Mrs. CTL was so ill last year and Tehillim were being said I posted and used the Hebrew name.
WHY? Because I read it on the framed Ketubah that was hanging on the wall in my MIL’s den. That was from the second marriage.
This morning, I had a late appointment in New Haven, where MIl was from and I went to her parents’ and brother’s graves. All three had Yiddish names inscribed, not Hebrew.

So, Mrs. CTL and I discussed this at supper tonight and we’ll continue her family tradition and use the Yiddish name on the stone.
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That still leaves the unanswered question of inscribing the stone where the first husband (Mrs. CTL’s father) is buried.

I had a long talk with my BIL, who retired as a shul Rav after 40 years,
He had an interesting take on the situation.
He explained to me a similar occurrence in his shul that took place about 25 years ago. The female was buried with the second husband and the children also inscribed the firs husband’s stone, There were nieces and nephews on the first husband’s side who would come to pay respects to deceased husband #1 when visiting their parents and grandparents in the family plot. They would have no reason to travel to another cemetery to pay respects to their late uncle’s now deceased wife buried with husband #2. They would however make a Molei for her when reading the inscription on their uncle’s double stone.