Reply To: Applying for a job that’s not you

out of town yid: As for living, because life where I was was sinply unaffordable and I could not even get a sustainable retail, hotel, or food service job (every job had billions vying for the opportunity and I was an inexperienced newcomer) I moved from the most magical amazing place that I had ever stepped foot on in my life to a boring suburb in a simple town with much more affordable food and housing.

When I first moved here, I told my new rabbi about my life. Suddenly he stopped me when I shared about a recent chesed that I had done. My rabbi told me that giving money away, for someone in my position, wasn’t chesed. A lot of pieces started coming together over the years. I seemed to care more about helping others and being a “good person” to a fault.

Moving to another state forced me to reevaluate my life goals, and take a new look at what I wanted from life.

You know what, I want to make money. I am still in the process of building myself up. I went back to school, and it was the most empowering things I have done for myself.

Baruch Hashem, my grades were great, and I finished my degree thanks to Pell grants and academic scholarships. Really a blessing.

Out of town yid, I do not know your circumstances, but I want you to know that you don’t have to give up who you are.

You might have to let go of your expectations as to what your purpose is in this world. Maybe Hashem needs you to move.

Honestly, that’s how I see it in my case.

No one. No one could have ever gotten me to move from where I was living.

But a turn of events slowly broke me down to the point that all I wanted was some privacy, a warm bed, and some quiet to reflect and stop fighting for survival.

Today, I feel at home where I am, and I appreciate having a more boring life.

It sounds like you need to act. Remember that you are not alone. Hashem is with you. Guiding you even now.