I’ll put it this way, I’m young enough to be born after the Rebbes histalkus.
I hope what you seem to experience, focus on other things besides moshiach, is more prevalent than is my impression.
I’m puzzled by your use of the word “histalkus”. Why does it seem to me that even non meshichist Lubavichers can’t seem to directly acknowledge that the Rebbe passed away?
The normal term people use for this is “petirah”.