@RSO,
“Why are lubavitchers always so much on the defensive. ”
Hmm, I wonder.
“My challenge, I suppose it could be called, was to find me someone who was told to keep his mesorah when it would not be so obvious that he was choshuv and/or from the outside, for example, to keep winding tefillin the other way, to keep wearing non-lubavitch tallis/tzitzis.”
I explained in a previous post the difference between Minhag and Halachic Shita. The two examples you bring are in the latter category.
“and they were told to keep their levush because it makes it obvious to anyone who sees them that this choshuve family were attracted to Lubavitch from the outside.”
Nonsense. Part of the Lubavitch conspiracy I mentioned earlier, which believes that any praiseworthy thing the Rebbe or any Lubavitcher did is for ulterior motives. Disgusting!
Also, this family do keep many of their other Minhagim too, such as keeping Shabbos for several hours longer, by taking it in early, or bringing out late.