MTAB, calm down. The OP was asking if it is appropriate to go for a walk. E120 gave her (i.e. a girl’s) perspective of how she thought this could be appropriate. Nothing in her comments suggested she was asking to be babied or treated like a spoiled princess.
The purpose of the date is not to check out how pretty the girl is in person, or to have a good time at some exciting place, but to find out about the person’s middos and personality for yourself, to see if you are compatible. So yes, everything that is done or said contributes to that impression. On both sides. There are ways for the guy to see how considerate the girl is also- from what she says, what she does, how she says it. For example, while they are walking, she see that he is getting tired since he had a long, hard day, and asks if he wants to sit for a bit.
yes the dating process as you describe it is unbalanced and the boy has the harder job. But that’s ok- because for the rest of the guy’s life, his wife will be cooking for him, cleaning up after him, picking up his socks from the floor, and maybe she is even working to support him in learning, etc etc. But she is willing to do all that because she knows that he cares about her and is sensitive to her needs.
Alternatively, you can join Joseph’s community and have a couple of sit-ins and leave everything else up to your parents.
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