yet more evidence that slonimer is non other than Joseph (who for a couple years seemed to have been happy posting only as himself)
The OP’s question is a troll post, asking how to tell girls they don’t light when not all girls don’t light. But our esteemed posters seemed equally “off” by answer that they do, which is just as incorrect. SOME do, and SOME don’t. You follow your rov. And the idea that we have some sobbing females not able to realize their role in the lighting if they don’t have their own match (for those who don’t) smells just like those women crying that they can’t say kaddish. (sorry GH, it isn’t always a negative to let women be yotzei mitzvos thru their husbands or fathers)
If you are not able to raise your daughters with the understanding that they have different roles in Torah observance than their brothers, who have different roles than their sisters, then you have much more serious issues than this particular one.