Mentsch1,
I’m sorry to hear that you had to go through that. I have a close friend who endured something similar. His first marriage lasted less than three months.
However, in his case (and perhaps in yours as well) the culprit was not the XX chromosomal condition, but a bad case of OCD (she hid it from him the whole time, and went off medication to try to conceive), coupled with an obscene form of premeditated abuse of trust [this last may well have been genetic – it is rather similar to what Lavan did…].
Your mother’s rather healthy training of her child(ren) seems to be evidence that not all ailments suffered by XX carriers are related to that particular chromosome.
In any case, I am happy that you were able to move on from a toxic situation.