Ef,
“Judaism is a middle eastern religion ”
“In the middle east where Judaism comes from the men were unquestionably in charge of everything”
Hmm so in other words, each region was affected by their society and your ancestors were influenced by Islamic culture? So you have no concrete proof that this is proper Judaism other than that is how it was done by your tradition?
As Daas has pointed out, unlike all other A”Z fake regions – Judaism stands on its OWN – and there is enough in our holy Talmud and scriptures and sforim to properly know how women should conduct themselves.
Yes – we tend to be influenced by our surroundings, hence that it is our duty in Judaism to overcome all and seek advise by our Poskim and sages.
“Bias Ya’akov graduates fight with their husbands because they think the one minhag they learned in their school is torah lemoshe mi sinai and wont listen to her husband who knows that is not the case.”
Unfortunately, some Bais Yaakov girls nowadays are more knowledgeable in some tradition and halacha than many boys are. (after all it does say Al Titosh Toras IMACHA – not Avicho 🙂
As for your grandmother, she probably could barley read a pasuk…(correct me if i’m wrong)