You are not the first MO bochur to grow and become more right winged/yehsivish compared to his family. I know of many such boys who have made fine appropriate shidduchim. I think the key is to leave your environment/community and join one that is more like-minded. Once you are part of that community, then people you become close to there can look after your shidduch interests. Many bochurim like you go to E”Y to learn and stay several years. They become part of their yeshiva community and find shidduchim through their yeshiva contacts. Their background is not relevant at that point, because they have removed themselves from that background. I understand from your posts that you finished learning in Yeshiva in EY and are now back home. As long as you live at home, are around your very MO family and old friends, you will be perceived as one of them, which could explain why shidduchim are going nowhere. You need to show that you want something different for your future compared to your past.- perhaps by moving out to a different community, either to attend Yeshiva or college (preferably a frum one where you can make contacts within a more fitting community) or both together. Find yourself a nice family where you can be a ben-bayis there. Hatzlacha.
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