It is not an easy answer as my definition of a “good” shver is different from what my sister’s definition is. Try not to be critical of him. Just like you have to treat each of your children as individuals, so too your SIL and (future) DIL/SIL. I had a hard time adjusting to my shver A”H as he expected me to do things that he did not require of his own son (in kibbud av issues).
While it may not be the case yet for you, make sure you treat all your SIL’s the same way. My in-laws did not and it caused ill feelings. For example, they always paid for the other SIL’s lulav and esrog but never paid for mine or even offer to.
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