Is this question the same as if one spouse is chilled out and the other is more tense? For example if it’s erev sukkos and 1 spouse doesn’t know where they’re gonna go for a chol hamoed trip and is bugging out and the other says don’t worry well figure it out after shachris on chol hamoed. By bitachon one says how are we gonna get the money for…. and the other says don’t worry hashem will take care of us.
You left your question very vague so if I didn’t understand your question maybe leave am example of what your referring to.
Hatzlocha raba and may your shalom bayis work out very well even though you’re on different levels of bitachon