If you ever look at comments on virtually any article on, for example, Yahoo News that concerns Jews and/or Israel, one of the most frequent rants is that we only care about our own.
On the other hand:
Suppose a family conducts a memorial service for their child who was a victim of a mass shooting. Does the family deserve to be criticized for focusing only on their own child? Does that mean they’re being selfish and bigoted for not caring about the other victims?