Is option 1 and 3 an option? Or option 1 and 2?
I guess its nicer to have a bris in shul with many attendees. You coud serve some kichel and grape juice when done, I imagine you will have plenty of leftovers. ..
Then you go home and have a seudas bris for family or extended family and friends. If someone is uncomfortable mishing, they should feel confortable to tell it to you.
Mazel tov! May you have lots of yiddish nachas from all your children and grandchildren! Current and future!
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