Haimy
All of DY’s explanations are correct
As is Syag’s.
I know of more single boys han girls. any one person’s list isnt really evidence. Particularly when that list is skewed like Freddy’s. PArt of his problem is there are a lot more girsl > 25 who want a long term learner than there are long term learners > 25 (this is similar to DY’s #2) Its easy to want a long term learner its harder to be one.
My question for you is the following
Datign in y community is relatively rigid and involves the following steps:
1) Shadchan proposes girls name to boy
2) Name goes on his list
3) Eventually boy gets to the name and does research (Ie mother does)
4) the boy agrees to go out
5) The girl is told of the boy
6) she (ie her mother) does research
7) girls agrees to go out
8) they go out
9) they go out some more
10 they get engaged
My question for you is where is the “backlog” of 1000’s shidduch crises girsl occurring ?
Are boys not hearing of them? (Ie step 1) Are boys not agreeing to go out with them (before research? (3) after research? (4) etc) are the girls not willing to go out? (7) After dating are they not getting engaged (10)
In what stage are these “1000’s of older girls” getting stuck?