Joseph:
What are the protective measures you would suggest parents take to prevent abuse from their spouse or themselves? Because I can assure you that if you would recommend any ideas that wouldn’t affect normal daily life, many cautious parents would be glad to apply them.
The point is, we take the measures we can – even if there are bigger dangers for which we have no way of protecting ourselves. Not putting locks on your childrens’ doors and checking in on them sounds pretty reasonable and sensible, and shouldn’t affect the quality of life for anyone, even if they were never in danger.
As an aside, I know a rosh kollel who over the years had had 2 different yungeleit share with him that they were struggling in married life because their wives were abused by brothers. I just wonder how many others did NOT share their painful stories.
