Ittf
There are plenty of people who jumped OTD or who are teetering on that level (Nothing to do with “Lifestyle”) and KIruv people have to deal with them too. Sometimes they will agree to go to a Shabbos Meal on the condition they drive, many times Kiruv people will agree to this because they know a spark is needed
And while Im sure Rav Wolbe said this, but thats not always the best approach,