Reply To: Parental involvement in shidduchim

While it is traditional for parents to be involved in shidduchim for their children, the unterste shurah (bottom line) is that the decision belongs to the chasan and kallah. There is no inyan of kibud av in this case. While it is unlikely to happen in this case, if the girl feels strongly about it, she is free, both morally and halachicky, to ignore her mother’s advice and should, in fact, do so.