@haimy:
“Adam was created first, Hashem took his rib away and made Chava from it.”
Yes that is true and one interpretation of “tzelah” and one chazal about the creation of woman.
The other equally valid and true chazal is the one I mentioned above (which also sheds light on other pesukim).
The first one emphasises the quality of extra tznius that was invited in women more than men. The second teaches us that although the woman’s role is the receiver, and the more private role, it is equal to the mans and one is not complete without the other. They are two halves of one whole.
“Chava owes her life to Adam for sharing his rib.”
Last I checked Hashem created them both and this was the way He chose to create her. Adam did not create her, he didn’t even help.
“After Chava fed Adam from the Eta Hadaas Hashem Said “venue yimshol boch” he will rule over you.”
Yes, that is a curse not a good thing. Do you try to fulfil the verse in Torah “Vhoyisa meshuga?” It is and has been the unfortunate reality of the golus world. But we don’t need to sanction it the same we we aren’t dying to be persecuted although that is one of the curses of golus. In fact, we do and should do our best to defeat it. Jewish men throughout history have prided themselves on treating their wives with respect UNLIKE the goyim. I’m not sure where this attitude of pride in vhu yimshol bach comes from.
As chazal tell us “Isha kesheira oseh ritzon baalah”
Yes but that is unconnected to the above. He is supposed to set the spiritual standards high in the home, and in that case, she fulfils his will as a good Jewish wife. If not, with wisdom, she can oseh, recreate, his will to be more in line with Hashems.
“A wife is meant to be subservient to her husband as his eizer. He is to be treated as a king while he treats her as his queen.”
No issue with that. It’s true and has the Torah balance. He is King and she is Queen. Not he is spiritual, a potential malach, master and she is… A yente and servant. Some posts above read that way and its a distortion of Torah values.
“Feminism has made us think that there are 2 kings in the home, that is a recipe for divorce. No organization has 2 ceo’s, the same goes for marriage.