anonymous jew – what you say makes sense and I would certainly have thought the same thing but I grew up with people who were generally happy with where they were at. The one’s who were raised in weak Torah homes became weaker and the others grew, but I was not exposed to the animosity or aggression towards frumkeit that is out there. When I read some old threads here years ago I was bombarded with questions I never would have thought of and if I was in my 20’s I may have been much more intrigued. Before I knew how much garbage was out there on the net I would go to different blogs mentioned and read stuff so jolting, and written by people who are convinced they have found truth by leaving r”l. It took me only a couple days to swear off all the surfing and reading and I had to consciously tell myself that that is not the place to find answers. I had no doubts, was not discontent with the Torah I have been taught and live, but I was still sucked in by the seemingly intellectual front they present. I had to use my strength to put up that wall, and I believe someone who isn’t on guard can be derailed, like missionaries do, even without having doubts.
Even among the posters here there is ittle digs toward chumros, hashkafos, negativity toward being stringent or sheltered. It definitely takes it’s toll.
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