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You’re right you didnt address it to me and honestly I’m perfectly happy to leave it to philosopher or anyone else who is willing to address. I saw he didn’t address the sources you posted so that’s why I said I can wroite up a response of needed, although im happy to leave it if people realise its just your view but not mainstream Judaism.

The reason why I constantly give my two cents about this is because I want to counteract several serious problems that can arise from these kind of posts:

1) a non Jew / not frum / traditional yid can read your post and come away with the mistaken understanding that Jewish men view and most therefore probably treat their wives and daughters and women in general like maidservants/ inferior
and not as equals.this is a chillul Hashem as it has never been the case among the Torah giants of today, nor is it Torah hashkafa.

2) a fresh baal/as teshuva / even a frum bais Yaakov maidel who never learned and isn’t able to learn, the sources you post, can come away with negative feelings towards Yiddishkeit for the same reason or negative feelings about her role in Am Yisrael if she is fooled into thinking her role is inferior.

3) a man who isn’t sufficiently learned / brought up in a frum environment can read your posts and base his hashkafa and attitude towards his wife etc. to be overcontrolling and then tell her this is Torah ( I know of a case like this -not from your posts but from the ideas within which he must have come across in some way. His wife didn’t know any better. When she eventually found out the truth they almost got divorced, and bh reconciled after he changed his behaviour.)

Shoo I really really think if after all the discussion on many threads something isn’t sitting right with you even though you see that its not mainstream hashkafa etc, you should not keep posting these kind of things, but should look up a hashkafa book on the matter which addresses all these sources and more (I can recommend one I know, I’m sure there are others).