CTL and Amil: Permit me please to repeat what I wrote above to Winnie:
Notice my above comment referencing “the *traditional* goyish way of dating.” Meaning, when the American yeshivish dating system was inaugurated in America, decent goyim would typically go to the girl’s home to pick her up for the date.
I am aware that the goyim have degenerated since then, as you pointed out, where today that system has mostly gone into the trash and replacing it is a system where they date for fun (as you mentioned) and worse rather than for marriage with the parents mostly having been kicked out of the equation.