DY:
You wrote: “They teach their kids how to make a parnassah. They don’t have college degrees perhaps, but they do very well in business.”
There is a huge mistake in this statement. Some of their kids go on to make decent parnasah, and among these are several who enter various kinds of business. But there are many that don’t. They are those lacking the skills and motivation to be klai kodesh, but are coerced by the trend to remain in kollel until they get thrown out by the kollel, the family, or circumstances. Meanwhile, we have a family that is impoverished because there was no valid reason to “kvetch a bonk” while dependent on others, family, entitlements, etc. This is not a small segment of the population that comoes out of our yeshivos that do NOT prepare their talmidim for parnasah.
Yeshivos have abdicated their responsibilities here. They should have hanhalah that establishes individual relationships with each and every talmid, and fulfills the mandate of חנוך לנער על פי דרכו, where a rebbe understasnds the liabilities and assets of each talmid, and knows how to guide that talmid towards a career that affords success while maintaining a life of kedusha in avodas Hashem. Do you know any Rosh Yeshiva, Rebbe, Mashgiach, etc. that does this? Of course a parent should participate in teaching the child אומנות, as the גמרא tells us. But that does not mean the specific career, as the father might not possess the skills to teach. But the average rebbe gives the message to NOT pursue a career, and instead teaching the talmid that anything but learning is either bitul Torah, kefira, or other lies. Can we straighten this injustice out before resolving the others?