Well my parents and everyone says you cannot just say “I’d be okay with x, y, and z” because that’s an invitation to go doulbley far on such a road. In a shidduch world where everyone tries to conceal information “shy” can mean basically socially awkward to autistic and “openmindness” can equal openness in hashkafa.
You need to see different people and be super clear where you are holding. Don’t say “I’d date former MO girls” say “I want to date someone with my hashkafos, I don’t really mind where she comes from as long as were holding together in the same place now”.
I’m a former OOT girl. I live in-town now but I’m an OOT at heart, I feel like it’s hard to find someone who gets the mentality of OOT.