I think pictures are a good thing.
True, lots of people who are crazy don’t LOOK crazy, but lots of people who are not so normal…well, look not so normal.
When someone sends you a picture of a myoung bochur who is unkept, shirt tucked half in and half out, wearing all sorts of interesting clothing and a strange look in their eyes…you know something isn’t right.
I could of wasted a date with this person.
I also get anxiety thinking every human is going to pass is possibly my date.
In addition it’s like super awkward when someone comes and they’re extremely short, tall, fat or anything and it takes a moment to compose yourself and accept that this is what he looks like etc, and not show your surprise, shock, or frustration on your face.
I just like knowing what’s happening and not seeing a picture makes me incredibly nervous. I don’t really care if he’s extremely good looking or really not so when it comes down to whether or not I think he’s my zivug or not.
I don’t see the problem with pictures at all.