No one would consider using goyish wine – even if one had a heter. Yet cholov akum is taken lightly in America. I was told by my grandparents that in Old Country they were moser nefeshfor cholov yisroel.
lacis asks how difficult was it to walk over to a neighbors farm – I dont know, I wasnt there, but that is what I was told…maybe the goyish neighbor wasnt too happy to have a Yid stand over him when he milked the cow...I dont know, but that is the mesorah I was told.
We live in an age of heteri – seeking a heter for anything that makes our lives easier. Imagine the mesirus nefesh of not having a Haagen Daaz icecream which isnt cholov yisoel! Or to pass up those Christies Oreo cookies because we are Yidden that dont look for heterim - mamash mesiras nefesh! I wont even mention giving up on the Hershy chocolate – that would be a sin.