Reply To: Setting up a MO girl with a serious Lakewood bochur = good idea or not?

binny “a women wearing pants is totally unacceptable for a ben torah.”

There are many homes of bnei Torah that the wife wears the pants in the house – figuratively.

Many great bnei Torah (and even gedolim) of previous generations had wives that did not cover their hair. It did not stop their learning or their sholom bayis.

I ask you, is it acceptable for a ben Torah to have a wife that eats cholov akum, uses an eiruv that Reb Moshe says is worthless, has an unfiltered phone (which gedolim in EY made into the worst possible aveira) and speaks loshon hara regularly ?! Yet, many do – and life goes on quite nicely.

I think you are reacting to the “appearances”…but in today’s world, “image” is secondary.