This is actually a very valid question that the thread starter asked. I have searched for this answer for years and haven’t been pleased with the findings. There are poskim who require women to drink a cup/some wine but unfortunately all seforim that I’ve seen either don’t bring up the issue, or rarely just explain that it isnt tsnius for women to get drunk (based on a gemara but dont remember where off hand).
But an even better question was triggered by your second post on this thread, about scotch. its actually fascinating to read the arguments throughout various seforim about whether one is yotse the mitsva with non-wine alcohols. Some say the Nes happened with wine, so its davka wine, others say as long as your ad delo yada it doesnt matter which liquor got you there…
a question ive had is whether or not you can be yotse with Brandy according to all opinions since its made out of fermented grapes just like wine is.