Haimy I’m very pleased to hear that you go out there to deal with the problem. Kol hakavod
“after learning with a college boy for 3 years, he went on to Ohr Sameiach & joined a kollel, Both his parents were Jewish.”
Wonderful thing and big zechus.
But how do you know that his parents are Jewish?
Maybe somewhere up the line there was an intermarriage? No? Isn’t there such a big percentage of that?
אלא מאי you looked into it (hopefully).
So why do you assume that chabad doesn’t?
The Chanukah parties are for the Jews that the shluchim are in touch with, not the non jews. (If there’s a non-jew who pops up occasionally, we take the right steps to take care of it.
“This problem is only getting worse & we would be foolish to think it doesn’t exist.”
Who said it doesn’t exist? One of the reasons the Rebbe sent shluchim is for exactly this reason, he said “there’s a fire burning in the world and we have to save them from assimilation”. I’m glad you guys picked up on it.
But why don’t you look at the positive side, how many people have saved from intomarriage, on an day to day basis?
And regarding your last concern, if there is a non religious Jew that what’s to get married according to halocha, and wants an orthodox Rabbi to officiate, A. That means he is sincere regarding the marriage, and he will do the divorce according to halocha, and B. The shliach teachers all the laws regarding marriage and tells them that if you want to get a divorce you have to do so according to halocha. That simple.
And besides the point no non religious Jews want an Orthodox Rabbi to officiate their wedding, and if they do, that means they know the Rabbi for a nice amount of time, and the Rabbi will make sure everything is done properly.
If your concern should be also regarding frum community, there are so many stories when husband does want to get to get to his wife and that could lead to big problems. (Obviously the concern is not exactly on the same level, but you got the point.)