“Someone I know was at a matza baking chabura and the head of the chabura insisted on a Chazon Ish chumra, an Aruch HaShulchan chumra, and at least one from the Ben Ish Chai.”
There’s a big difference between “shopping for a psak” and being yotzei all deos. Do you really need this explained to you?
rational: People are upset at your presentation more so than the content of what you’re saying. You could chose to say: “based on the reason for 2 day yom tov in chutz having to do with a safek on when yom tov ends combined with kabalistic reasons, it is understandable to me why people would hold that your practice should go by where you currently are located. However, many (if not most) respectable poskim hold that it should be based on your permanent dwelling place. I do not have the zchus to understand the logic behind shittah, but, b’ezras Hashem, I will continue my learning and be able to understand it soon.”
Or, you could chose to say, “I don’t get this opinion, therefore it’s dumb.”
Do you really think those 2 options are equally appropriate?