Wow!! I think I agree with RG for maybe the first time! It bugs me when people call things apikursus, when they are just wrong, stupid or ignorant. Not every megaleh panim batorah even shelo kehalacha is automatically apikursos. No reason to fire off a nuclear weapon when a fly swatter will do the trick.
to PY: Any rabbi who says you can suspend hilchos aveilus for YH is probably not a trusted enough source for most people on this forum. For sure not the ones you’re trying to market your ideas to.