Totally off topic but someone mentioned flowers at a grave.
Reb Yaakov galinsky said, he was once asked to officiate at a burial of a wealthy non religious family.
He knew a nice tear jerker of a speech would result in a nice check for his yeshiva and kolel But when they showed up with armloads of flowers he couldn’t hold back.
He told them, if you believe in the afterlife and eternity of the soul, so he needs mitzvahs, mishnayos , and kaddish.
And if you don’t believe in it, so why are you wasting money on flowers, he can’t know about them anyway.
He said, I didn’t get a check, but by the next year they were saying kaddish on the yartzeit .