I suppose in the times of Nach, everyone went to a Novi – prophet to ask who is their bashert.
Could you imagine that today, the Novi points to some beggar in the street, there you are, that’s your bashert!
I’m not going to marry him!
The question of marrying a bashert as opposed to who you or your family most like to marry, is a complex one. The whole topic is really about emunah – do I really believe in marrying my bashert!